This article first appeared on The Nest & was written by Julie Pennell.
Whether you’re moving in together for the first time, or just moving into a new home, we know the process can be a test on your relationship. From choosing the perfect place to divvying up the responsibilities of packing and unpacking, we’ve got some tips to make it a less stressful time.
Make a list of wants and needs
Choosing a house together can be tough. You might be lucky and both fall in love with the same one, but chances are it’s going to take some compromise on both ends. Take a moment to jot down what each of you want and need in a new place. Then discuss your ideal home based on your notes (neighborhood, size) It’ll make the process easier when you know what you’re looking for as a couple.
Agree on a budget
It’s a known fact that money is one of the main sources of stress and bickering for couples, so don’t let that be an issue when moving into your new home together. Discuss the financial contributions you’re both comfortable paying based on your personal income and savings. If one makes more than the other and wants to upgrade to a bigger home or nicer neighborhood, would they feel okay with paying a little extra? Put all of that on the table before you start house hunting to ensure you’re both on the same page.
Divvy up the responsibilities
As with any aspect of the relationship, no one wants all the responsibility to fall on them when it’s time to move. Packing and unpacking are not the most exciting tasks, but when you have help (and maybe some good music), we promise it can actually be kind of fun. Each person should take a certain section or room of the house, and by the time it’s over, you’ll realize how quick the process will feel.
Take moments to yourself
This one especially goes out to couples who are moving in together for the first time, but it’s also a good reminder for the more seasoned twosomes too. No matter how much you love your partner and want to be with them, it’s important for both of you to have your alone time. This holds true during the moving process (take a break from packing to go for a solo jog in the park) as well as when you’re settled in your new home (designate a relaxing space just for you).
Don’t let parents get too involved
Having Mom or Dad share their words of wisdom for choosing or fixing up a house can be helpful, but you have to remember that you’re blending your taste with your partner’s—not your parents’. It’s okay for them to share ideas, but keep in mind that it’s ultimately up to you and your partner to make the decisions.
Mix your styles together
No one ever said a room has to be completely traditional or completely modern. The reason you and your partner go so well together is because opposites attract. Embrace that idea by mixing up your styles when it comes to home décor. Create a joint Pinterest board of looks you love for ideas and work together to make the house fit both of your personalities.
Have date nights
While your home is an awesome place to hang out, make it a point to explore the neighborhood from time to time. Partake in happy hour at that cute bar down the street or go for a walk in the local park. You’ll not only be enjoying each other’s company, but you may even meet some new couple friends in the area.
The Nest and Coldwell Banker partnered up to present Awesomeness at Home, a sponsored series featuring helpful tips for two when moving into a new house, plus ideas to make your new home smarter. To find a local Coldwell Banker agent who can help you with real estate, visit ColdwellBanker.com.
